Hello ❤️

I can always tell the beginning of a new love cycle,when love begins to bloom again. It often shows up when you are not looking, when you are focused on other things like taking better care of yourself in whichever capacity, seeking God , working on a project, just doing somewhat serious life things that bring about a transformation within you. Most of the time we fail to pick up on the change in us because we are so focused on our goals, and while we are busy pushing forward our thinking changes, our vibration and energy shifts and we start to attract love without even trying.

I have learned over the years that love is not something you look for or chase. It is someone you become. It is possible to weigh when a a new season of love is approaching , not because of what you are willing to recieve but because of how much you are willing to give. The greatest evidence of love is sacrifice. When you are not only intentional about giving more but also able to do so with grace, maturity and patience, without making demands on another soul. When you are at peace with the possibility of outcomes, when you no longer want to control or manipulate, when you are not just ready but able to live and let live, love begins to beckon.

However, what happens when we start to fall in love? Feelings get involved and emotional attachments happen and now we have all these expectations and our hearts are more fragile because the reality of heartbreak or disappointment is closer home and because of how the brain works. Previous failed scenarios that caused us pain will play often in our minds when we dare to put ourselves out there again, the brain is trying to warn of the impending danger of history repeating itself, a very loud siren goes off and we enter into self preservation mode.

Self- preservation looks like, pride, arrogance , carelesness, selfishness, unreasonable standards, statements like, ' there are many fish in the sea' when you know very well that you have been in that sea for a real minute and the fishes as many as they are were not for you or did not like you. If not handled in good time, self preservation can seamlessly morph into self sabotage.

Fear is a very real emotion in romantic relationships. The fear of them not being who they said they were, the fear of them leaving, the fear of having to nurse another heartbreak. It is okay to be scared, your feelings are valid, what happened to you happened to you, but please understand that fear and love cannot coexist in the same space. Fear will smother love to death, fear is that sneaky fake friend that appears to be rooting for you only to sneak up on you when you are at your weakest and stab you in the back. Fear can be an indication that more healing time is required or that you are in the wrong relationship, but whatever it is, fear is never ever your friend.

Love is a gift and when you see the signs of it coming again, because if you are a progressive individual who is always working on being a better version of themselves, love will surely visit again. When you see the signs, gather yourself and call yourself to order. Do not allow your heart to wander off, put a leash on that thing,do not love absolutely, remember you are still dealing with a human being and they will fall short.

Give them grace, give yourself grace ,keep guarding your heart, i said guard not stone wall, the ultimate responsibility of fulfilment and happiness will forever remain solely yours. Do not allow pride and fear fool you, good love is very hard to find, be humble, be patient, honour who you have, challange yourself to be the best lover you have ever been, show up in the full sense of the word. love sincerely.

The flames will fan again, allow them enflame steadily over time. Let love find you armed with kindness, patience, honour, joy, hope, faith, peace, forgiveness, generosity, wisdom, discernment, balance. If you ever worry that you are doing too much remember the standard set by love Himself. I believe that one of the reasons God allows us to experience dimensions of His love, is so that once we are strengthened we give the same love to others and strengthen them.

Watch out for those little foxes.

I hope your love safari is making sense so far, for me... my love will find me chill, excited,whole, ready and i can't wait to dance with him, my man my man 🤭

I will do better this time, I promise.

Till next post,

love and light 😘