OMG 2020!

2020 has been a million things big, small and crazy to be honest. It has felt like a whirl wind most part, here's some lessons I won't be forgetting any time soon:-

life is more than food and the body more than clothing.

We live in a generation where we have been taught to pursue things. Cheap things, expensive things, things that other people have, things we like, things we think matter. I don't have anything against things really, things are good they make moments lighter, they help create memories that last lifetimes. Its the price, that we pay that bothers me. Life is more than just having a beating heart and a healthy body. Its also about having a sound mind and a whole soul.

We are so busy with our 8 to 5 working jobs we don't like to make money, spending time we don't have doing things that don't matter. What if there is a better way to do life, one that leaves us with enough energy at the end of the day to really check in on ourselves and our people, time to pursue what we are passionate about, work on growing our talents, time to give back to society. I have also learnt that sleeping is not rest. Rest is when you are fulfilling your purpose in life. its not lack of stress or challenges it is the presence of inspiration, motivation, its creativity, desire , drive and support to get up and keep at it. This year has challenged me to find meaning and fulfilment, find balance in your life Lavender ,coz you ain't got forever to get it together.

Support your peoples support systems.

Its human nature to want to judge, to define people in our heads almost at a moments notice, we don't even realize when we do it. we want to have an opinion about stuff, especially when its about people close to us. we look at people and most times cant help but have a description of who we think they are from what we see. its easy to confuse a person's energy with your opinion when you do not like what you see. its easy to define people by the things they have been through. I have learnt this year that when it comes to friends and family and who they hang out with, its important to pause. when my head is trying to rationalize and make sense of everything and trying to figure everyone out all the time, pause for a minute. I get that its human to have biases and preferences and with good reason, but this is not about me.

The truth is that family and friends find excitement and joy and form strong friendships with some people who we may not be fond of. We don't pay much attention and honestly its easier to stay away and not deal. It could be that childhood friend that is always getting them in trouble, an annoying neighbor or colleague , a spouse that we feel is not deserving. I have learnt this year that I don't have to understand everything about everyone around me, knowing that they are important to someone I care about is should be all I need to know in most cases. Support those who support your people because at the end of the day we are only as strong as our support systems. We cant be everything for the people we love all the time, it takes a village. Allow others room to love on them too, there's enough love to go around. So if you are like me, here's an invitation; stop being salty, get out of your own head and shoot them a text sometime, have coffee get to know your peoples people, you never know what you will learn.

Be careful what you pray for, because you will get it.

God is in the business of answering prayers. it is written that if we ask we shall receive and that we have not because we ask not. Asking is the easy part, its the process that isn't always fun. I have learnt that God wants to give us the desires of our hearts, however, gains must be maintained otherwise there's no point. That means that there will be training and testing and only when He knows you are ready for it will you receive it. There will be some trying times, its called the refiners fire, however, when you do come out of that furnace you will be glad you didn't give up. Don't get weary of the process, trust God. Don't be afraid to believe and ask God for more, He is a rewarder of those that diligently seek Him.

Its cliché I know, but yeah life is short, so live.

From pandemics that come out of nowhere to the reality of what is the cycle of life, 2020 has reminded us that we are here for a season. find out why you are here, love people and let people love you. Give thanks for everyday you get above the ground. Remember the world cannot create another you, I mean it can try but truth is you are the best you there could ever be. Be you, anything else is boring and ain't nobody got time for that! be happy. forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in 2020, missed opportunities, relationships gone wrong, the whole shebang. take notes, catch the lesson, dust yourself off and purpose to do better in the new year because you can. Tough times will come, take them one day at a time, you are stronger than you think. Celebrate all wins, big and not so big. sometimes celebrate just because. Also, kiss often. it boosts your immunity, helps tone your facial muscles and soothes headaches, don't say I dint tell ya! 😉

Destiny is today.

There is this temptation to think that destiny is something far away. However, tomorrow is birthed today, destiny is the collective of the here and now plus the future. There is no better time than today to be your best self, always work in progress but never loosing sight of the fact that today is the only guarantee we have. Don't wait to do tomorrow what you can do today. Despite the uncertainty of the human experience, the truth is that we are a blessed generation, things were much more difficult for people especially in our part of the world thirty or fourty years ago. the question is what kind of world do we what to leave for those who will come after us?

Who knows what 2021 will be like, I do know for sure that it is a clean slate, a new chapter, a chance to begin again. I also know whom I have believed in and I am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I have committed unto Him against any day. Happy new year my loves, thank you so much for reading and sharing my posts and just striding with me this year, I really appreciate you guys 😘.

Remember anything is possible with God, you are loved beyond measure and no one can be you.

May 2021 be your best year yet!

May you have the courage to desire the things that matter most to you,

May you have the strength to love with all your heart, while you still can.

See you next post 🤗

Adios ❣